We talk about everything these days. Through cursory conversations and social media posts, we learn about someone's politics, preferences, the cycles of their mental reality. We specialize in TMI (which I love; give me all the dirt, I will listen to every graphic detail). But strangely, we seem to go mute on the things that matter.

It's common these days to hear people grumble when they see Teslas, even the old ones. We like symbols, and the faux idea that we can easily know everything there is to know about someone based on one tiny line in their story. I recently reminded a friend that before politics bittered the taste, people who bought Teslas were trying to do something good for the environment. Contrarily and strangely, these grumbling folks are also the first to say that 500 lb rappers are beautiful, healthy, and should be allowed to get in any Lyft they want regardless of logistics, and anything less is misogyny, fatphobia, and discrimination. Again, it seems more like picking sides than critical thinking, and they're both petty distractions from more important matters.

Take, for instance, the character and actions of people. Now, those things matter. Let's say your bestie is about to go on a date with someone you know to be shady: do you say something, or do you bite your tongue because you don't want to be “gossipy”? Now, expand that. When someone acts out of pocket or shows their ass, do you see-something-say-something to your people, or do you chalk it up to “shit happens”, and let it go. And how many more times does “shit” have to “happen” before you tell your story?

In communities, reputation matters. While the microcosm of interest here is the local arts community, the best and worst of us will always be evidenced in our societal community as a whole. Healthy communities, at all levels, run on human interactions; the way we vouch for each other, warn each other, protect each other, and demand accountability from one another.

Let's say we're in an idealized vision of a little, old village. I say idealized, because there was probably human shit by the side of the road, and 15 babies had died in town that morning, and we're not going that real. I mean baskets full of flowers, going to the market, maybe your dress has a bustle. It definitely has pockets, and it's super comfy even though it looks super classy. Visualization in hand, imagine that you run into a neighbor who says she is going to hire a local man to, I dunno, tend her farm. Now, you hired this man once, and he ate your food, stole your money, and never did the job. Certainly, you warn your neighbor that she shouldn't hire this man! You tell her in detail what he said, and she says “oh! He said that to me!”, and your neighbor spares herself the losses.

There are people who can learn by being told the stove is hot, people who have seen others get burned so they resolve not to, and those who need to touch the damn stove. Those who prefer to get burned for themselves will do so regardless of being warned, or what they witness. Whether they think it’ll be different for them, different “this time”, or if they think you're exaggerating is impossible to say. What is sure, is that they need to prove it for themselves. And you know what, good on them. There will always be stoves I touch (sometimes just to make sure they're off, ‘cuz my OCD doesn't believe my eyes); there will always be warning signs I acknowledge, and then promptly ignore. For the most part, watching other people get burned or being warned of the fire, is all the proof I need.

Now, what if we don't tell each other these tidbits? Well, then the scamming farm hand gets to keep scamming all over town. And hell, maybe he's not an intentional scammer, just a shitty workman; you still shouldn't hire him. It's a pertinent thing to tell a person who's considering doing so. And if he's actually scamming on purpose, well, you should shout that from the rooftops.

I hear plenty of things (catch me with my ear to the ground, popcorn in hand). Some is petty shit, and that's bound to happen. This one's dating that one's ex, this one doesn't dig that on a vibe, that stuff’s inevitable. Other things are more serious: like when FTB covered a producer type, and when the article came out, he texted the female writer to say it was such a good read, he had to “unbutton his pants”. This is neither the time nor place to name names, but if you ask me IRL, I will tell you. Why would I keep that private? Why would I protect that person?

Same goes for those we've had bad experiences working with, including venues or organizations that haven't stuck to contracts, or lived up to promises. When we hear someone consider working with them, we let them know, because we wish someone had let us know. When things go sideways with productions, events, shows -- whatever the commitment is -- it affects something that's taken time, effort, and probably money to create. It's like a group project where everyone does their part, except that one person who creates more work for everyone.

The other side of the coin is equally important, though shinier and more beautiful. We need to spread the good. Don't wait for someone to ask about someone before telling them that they're a stellar human, a dedicated worker, a wonderful artist. Say it out of the blue! Non-sequitur these things into conversations. Share the fulfilling experiences you have with people as a matter of course, not an exception. Tell your friends about great artists, tell your producer friends who is a dream to work with. Tell people about the folks you know who are determined to raise their craft to expertise, or those who show up every time with full hearts and pure intentions. We all know people who consistently rise above and beyond, those who never bail when the going gets tough, and those names should be on our lips more often than our complaints.

While I know people who seem incapable of saying a bad word about anyone, their opinions mean less to me. We all know I love a bright side, but more than that, I love an accurate weather report. If you make allowances and excuses for everyone's bad behaviour, searching in the rubble of all the damage they've done for the reason they've done it, I cannot trust your perspective. But if we can speak honestly about shortcomings, then I feel we can be truthful about those who excel. And as much as I want to prevent being burned, what I really want is to know who is great, easy to work with, maybe even a brainstorming ingénue.

Spreading good news will always be less juicy, but it's sweeter. We feel better when we speak of the good, and we encourage others to shine spotlights where they're most deserved. So don't be shy, and don't keep their names out of your mouth. Share truth, the bad, the ugly, but also and always the good. Raise up the social profiles of those who do great things, and we can shut out those we need to warn each other about.

And if you ever have TMI or tales to tell, know that I'm all ears. Let's elevate the community by raising up the best of us.

don’t (food) waste this opportunity!

Discover the magic of fermentation at the beautiful Poubelle Magnifique! Molotov Cuisine's Chef Fiona Genevieve presents a series of immersive workshops where you'll explore vibrant flavors. from fresh fruits, vegetables, and herbs to wild foraged treasures. Craft your own unique ferments, and a sparkling brew, and experience the transformative power of fermentation through a tasting of some of Chef Fiona’s signature snacks.

Don't miss this unique opportunity! Chef Fiona will be in residence at La Poubelle Magnifique on Crescent Street for three afternoons: Monday, April 28th, Tuesday, April 29th, and Wednesday, April 30th, 2:00 PM - 4:00 PM

MORE INFO AND REGISTRATION: Facebook

FOOD SECURITY FOR ALL!

It'll be an unforgettable night of music, community, and giving back!

The Harmonist & La Ferme Coopérative aux Champs Qui Chantent present a benefit concert to support the local Solidarity Basket Program, which helps make fresh, organic, locally grown produce accessible to everyone—no matter their income.

Featuring performances by Katie Moore, Dara Weiss & The Shelvin’ Rockers, Caro D with Paul C, and The Stone Bonnet Choir

Plus! A raffle packed with amazing prizes from local businesses, and friends of the farm!

Dance, sing, and show your support for Food Security for All! Bring your friends, your good vibes, and your love for local food and music!

$20 @ The Door

WHAT: Songs for the Soil: Supporting Food for All feat. Katie Moore

WHERE: La Sala Rossa, 4848 St. Laurent Blvd., Montreal, H2T 1R5

WHEN: Tonight! Wednesday, April 16, Doors @ 7 PM, Show @ 8 PM

METRO: Laurier (Orange)

TICKETS: VenuePilot

Show Up, Sign Up

Catch local pros, and first timers sharing the stage at this cozy, friendly, cafe show! The audience is hot, the folks are funny, and the menu is lit! Get lovingly brewed coffees, fresh sandwiches, and decadent pastries! Free entry, laughs guaranteed. Hosted by Erik Intervado.

WHAT: Laugh Knights presents Café Eevee Open Mic

WHERE: Café Eevee, 1251 Saint Zotique St., Montreal, H2S 1N8

WHEN: Friday, April 28, Sign-up @ 7 PM, Show @ 8 PM

METRO: Beaubien (Orange)

RSVP: Eventbrite

Sexy Smoke

It's a trailblazing night of high femmes and thems that'll leave you breathless -- and more than a little thirsty. Catch dazzling performances by Phoenix Inana, Moonshine Sunshine, Just Horny, Irony, Imogen Quest, Lola Bunny, and Gigi Georgette!

There will be a joint roller on site to roll up some magic for you to enjoy before the show and during intermission (BYOBud, duh). Special herb blends to try in your mix provided by Holy Matter/s!

There's also a raffle supporting the small local org Traps MTL.

This will be a wild, fun, and beautiful night you won't want to miss, so roll on up (see what I did there?).

There is a discount ticket option available for Trans, Black, Indigenous and other people of colour available on the website! Please use it as needed!

WHAT: Tokes & Tassels

WHERE: The Wiggle Room, 3874 St. Laurent Blvd., Montreal, H2W 1Y2

WHEN: Doors @ 7 PM, Show @ 8 PM

METRO: Saint Laurent (Green) & Sherbrooke (Orange)

TICKETS: WiggleRoom

Stoner Stories

Happy 420 to those who celebrate! Catch these amazing improvisers turn your funny 420 stories into live comedy! From hilarious mishaps to unforgettable moments, we’ll take your silly tales and roll them into something special!

$5 in advance / $10 @ the door

WHAT: High Status

WHERE: Montreal Improv, 3716 Rue Notre-Dame St. W., Montréal, QC H4C 1P7

WHEN: Sunday, April 20 @ 730 PM

METRO: Place Saint Henri (Orange)

TICKETS: Eventbrite

A Hilarious Hang

Help us celebrate the big 20! It's a night of hilarious comedy in the heart of Montreal. The vibe is cozy and warm, and the comics are killers! This week, the lineup features Habib Siam, Kevin Campbell, Seby Jacob, and Abby Stonehouse!

Want to tell some jokes? Want to watch local comics try their latest funnies? Wet’n’Wild Bucket List Open Mic Competition starts at 10 PM. Show-up / Sign-up. I co-host this bad boy, so while I'm totally biased, I'm also correct when I say it's fantastic. Plus, the hang is hot! (Speaking of hot, if you order tea, they give it to you in the prettiest teacups. They've also got coconut water and kombucha…and booze. They have booze.)

WHAT: Comedy on Mackay #20

WHERE: NsurMackay, 1244 Mackay St., Montreal, H3G 2H4

WHEN: Tuesday, April 15 @ 8 PM, Open Mic @ 10 PM

METRO: Guy-Concordia (Green) & Lucien-l'Allier (Orange)

TICKETS: Eventbrite

World’s Smallest Comedy Night has so many cool things happening, so here are their events this week in order!

What Do You Know? Like, Seriously…

Tonight! Come to Hurley's for Trivia Night, and get bonus laughter! The theme for this week is The Simpsons! Grab a pint, enjoy delicious pub fare, and get ready to show off your trivia skills. Grab your team, and enjoy this night of comedy, friendly competition, and great company. Hosted by Vance Michel, this week features Steve Patrick Adams , George Assily, and Zak Kik.

WHAT: Trivia Night at Hurley's

WHERE: Hurley's Irish Pub, 1225 Crescent St., Montreal, H3G 2B1

WHEN: Every Wednesday @ 8 PM

METRO: Lucien l'Allier (Orange) & Guy-Concordia (Green)

RSVP: Eventbrite

Classic Coke

Beat the Monday Blues with WSC’s OG offering, The World's Smallest Comedy Night!

Enjoy a showcase of the best comedians in the city, hot up-and-comers, national and international touring comics, and surprises! Hosted by Vance Michel featuring James Mancini, Zak Kik, Chris Venditto, Walter Lyng, Ben Cardilli, Abby Stonehouse, Quinn Lague, and Troy Stark.

WHAT: The World's Smallest Comedy Night

WHERE: Hurley's Irish Pub, 1225 Crescent St., Montreal, H3G 2B1

WHEN: Every Monday @ 8 PM

METRO: Lucien l'Allier (Orange) & Guy-Concordia (Green)

TICKETS: Eventbrite

Dirty Monday

The Monday Night Dirty Mic is the place to be! Hosted by Vance Michel, every show is an unpredictable and unique experience as a hilarious collection of comedians from newbs to pros take the stage. See the best before anyone else, and catch seasoned locals doing their freshest funnies!

Comics: show-up, sign-up